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What is bi?
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Asking as a queer guy. Sorry if it’s a stupid question or over-asked. I mean I know bi is commonly known as attraction towards men & women, but I’ve also seen people say bi means having attraction towards all genders. So which one is it? Or is it unique to the individual?
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(M) am I bi for liking femboys
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Femboys, for the most part, identify as men.
So you are attracted to men.
As for the label, bi is one option. As is polysexual.
As others have mentioned, finsexual is a more defined label revolving around femininity. It's still a microlabel under bi, as it's the attraction to more than one gender. So using both finsexual and bisexual at the same time totally works.
Lesbians and bi women of Reddit, which was the smallest reason you lost interest in a woman you were flirting with? : lgbt
Main Post: Lesbians and bi women of Reddit, which was the smallest reason you lost interest in a woman you were flirting with? : lgbt
Am I bi if I like femboys?
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So. I'm straight,I like women,but recently I've been also interested in femboys,and thought about it and that I would date one But does that make me bi? I don't like them for what's down there,but for their personality and their feminality So would I be bi since they're a boy or no since they're acting and dressing like a girl?
Top Comment: Yes because although trans women are women, fem boys are just feminine men.
I'm Bi but the LGBT community is so toxic i have no plans on coming out
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back when I was in highschool and we all thought I was straight as a board I received merciless bullying at the hands of the gay kids at my school. Since then I've seen so much toxicity within the LGBT community that I have no desire to come out in case I get lumped in with those clowns. It seems like the majority of these people simply associate with each other because they feel isolated and victimized but then use their sense of moral superiority to bully and demean each other and anyone else who they might perceive as a pushover. I don't need a support network and I don't need a parade, I wish i could be honest about myself with my friends because i know for a fact they would not care but i dont want those cretins trying to recruit me.
Rant over, sorry if it offended anyone but we all have different life experiences
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I mean the LGBT community isn't a like most culture-independing communities: heterogeneous
What that means is that the toxic pack you describe is with a very high chance only a certain wing of the movement which you can dodge fairly certainly. The radical wings are, in my experience, only a fraction. Most people just want to have fun together and organize themself in the community somehow.
On the other hand, coming out doesn't mean that you need to have anything to do with a certain community. So why should you stop yourself opening up to your beloved ones only because there exist a group of pricks that could be interested in you? If you don't identify with the public picture of the LGBT-community, then i would just say to give a fuck for it and do whats best for you.
If you don't feel ready for it, it is fine. If you want to, then it is fine, too. But make the decision depend on you, not a group that you can easily dodge.
if the B in LGBT stands for bi. doesn't that mean there are two genders?
Main Post: if the B in LGBT stands for bi. doesn't that mean there are two genders?
Top Comment: The word is basically just a leftover from when even queer people weren't as aware of nonbinary genders. Most bi people actually are fine with dating nonbinary people
Bi erasure from the LGBT community?
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So I came to the realisation that I am bisexual last year. I've told my nearest and dearest and everyone I care about has been super accepting! I am a girl in a long term relationship with man. I've found that unless I tell people, everyone just makes the assumption that I am straight.
However yesterday I was having a conversation with a friend (who is gay) and he was asking if I thought another guy we knew was gay. I said, who knows, he could be bi? And my friend said to me "that doesn't exist". He doesn't know I am bi but it really hurt me, I didn't respond to it. I have heard that it's quite a common thing for people who are gay to not believe about being bi. Of course not everyone, I have many gay best friends who I have told and it they have responded in loving ways. I in no way want to generalise, but people have told me this happens often.
Is this a thing? That even people in the LGBT+ community will not accept people being Bi?
Also slightly off topic, but a few years ago before I came out, a Bi woman (who runs an intersectional feminist magazine) once said to me "because you are a CIS Straight woman" etc, and it didn't sit right with me. At this point I had never said to anyone about my sexual identity or ever said I was "straight". But people just assume you are if you are with the opposite gender. Even though she was in a straight looking relationship too. I didn't know why at the time, but it really got to me, and it stuck with me. I just needed to get that off my chest because it upset me for a long time and I don't know anyone else I could talk to about that happening who might understand, I don't have any bi friends.
Top Comment: Oh yes, that exists. Your friend is trying to comfort himself somehow. It's not about you. Or about bisexuals. For your friend, it's about your friend.
Bisexuality is looked down on in the LGBT community?
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Recently I was reading a post made by my SO about his sexuality. In plain truth he's pansexual, but for simplicity he tells people he's bisexual. He went on to explain that he does not truely identify with bisexuality because being "bi" is often looked down on in the LGBT community. This kinda confused me. I mean since I live in the Bible-Belt it took me years to just accept that I was attracted to men and women (now coming to terms with realizing I'm pansexual), and now I find out that just as being "bi" was not only some attention-getting scheme in highschool it's also unacceptable amung lgt?
Can anyone explain to me why being bisexual would be looked down on besides the obvious notion of girls being bi just for the attention?
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One problem true bisexual men face is the fact that many gay men use it as a sort of stepping stone to coming out as gay. This leads to the false impression that all bisexual men are simply gay men who haven't fully accepted themselves.
So sick of people trying to say that bisexual lesbians aren't valid, or that they can't use the label.
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Why are so many people insistent on saying that bi lesbians can't identify the way they wish? I'm really so tired of seeing it. Bi lesbians aren't harming the lesbian community. The label doesn't harm anyone, and yet BLERFs are so insistent upon saying it does and policing labels. Anyone else feel the same frustration with the gatekeeping?
Top Comment: I think the word you could be thinking of is sapphic!! Sapphic is an umbrella term for ALL wlw to use :-))!!!! Lesbian specifically comes from lesbos for women who loved Women (or just Not men) so both bisexual and lesbians and sapphic/wlw. :-))
Best Bisexuality Posts - Reddit
Main Post: Best Bisexuality Posts - Reddit